Spanking Therapy

Spanking or some related punishment is often deeply needed when a person feels the need to be forgiven either for something very specific and recent or for something they did many years ago, or for a serial behaviour.  The ultimate need is for purification and release.

There is always mutual consent with any spanking and while the striking with a hand, hairbrush or other implement and cane may be intense, the atmosphere is always one of control....

The first time spankee:

If this is your first time ever to be spanked we would discuss first in detail what will happen.  For me, unless you are the exceptional person who really requires stern punishment, a first time spanking is all about the need to feel safe and secure.

Punishment:

A serious punishment spanking is not wanted or needed very often, though it is surprising the number of requests I receive. It is very repetitive and can include some serious pain, although for me the pain itself is not the sole focus of the punishment.  As with any service I provide, we would discuss your needs at as great a length as we both felt were needed, however for this category I would make the final decision on the  punishment and  the cane would always  be employed.

What am I, why do I do this and who are my clients:

I am a tall slim man in my early 50s.  I became interested in the number of women in particular who felt the need to be punished with a spanking or caning but needed a safe environment.

I derive great satisfaction though doing this.  There is no sexual contact though most women will say that a session of this sort is by nature highly charged sexually.

My clients are women who feel the need for spanking and usually also caning (I only see men who are presented and accompanied by their wives for punishment).  The relationship is always consensual, and the reasons given for wanting to be punished are variable, but usually fit within the following:

• Have often dreamed of being spanked or caned and find the idea incredibly erotic.
• Have a deep need to cleanse away sexual or other misdemeanours and feel that real punishment is the only way.
• Need for their body to be punished in order to purify it...
• Have been spanked before and enjoy the feeling of being under discipline

What to expect

Almost any session will begin with spanking, mainly because 'cold' caning does so much damage.  On rare occasions (only one that I have administered) a punishment will just comprise a number of strokes of the cane.

Spanking can begin fully clothed, but will always proceed by the knickers being pulled down and the bottom fully exposed so that it can be properly punished.

Spanking will often involve more implements than just the hand, and if the cane is to be used, the spankee's backside must usually be well warmed up in order to prevent damage from the cane.

The level of obedience required during a session is absolute and disobedience, swearing or bad language will always attract penalties.

On rare occasions when a client feels the need to be punished severely but wishes to be restrained for this, I am prepared to restrain them for the caning.

I am not insensitive to the needs of a client and to their ability to cope with the level of discipline carried out.  I have never yet had a client feel that I had taken them too far.  I am very good, however, at judging how far to take them.

FAQs

Does it hurt?

Not more than you can take.  If it is for a punishment, then yes it will hurt.  If it is a serious punishment session it will hurt quite a lot.  We shall always have discussed your requirements well before we meet and I am in any case very experienced in knowing just what any one client can take.  I always give you the option of two levels of ‘safe' words - one to reduce the level of punishment and the other to stop, but I would hope to be able to read you well before you get to that point.

Will I be bruised or marked?

If this is your first ever spanking and caning, then I would take even more care to give you a prolonged and hard spanking - maybe taking quite a bit more time over this.  The reason for that is that caning a bottom that has been well warmed up marks remarkably little, if at all - even if applied for a significant punishment.  There may as a result of the prolonged spanking be some general discolouration that will go within a few days, and there will be a significantly bruised feeling where you have been struck by the cane.

How long does it take for the bruises to go?

There may as a result of the prolonged spanking be some general discolouration that will go within a few days, and there will be a significantly bruised feeling where you have been struck by the cane.

Should the cane be applied ‘cold' or without sufficient warm up (not something I ever propose, however some clients have a clear punishment scenario in mind that they request) the bruises can be quite severe and may last 3 or 4 weeks.

How frightening is it?

I hope that I am not frightening.  I am quiet, kind but strict.  We will have agreed what will happen before I come, though for a punishment scenario I usually leave a number of details unclear as it is more effective if the client is not expecting every move.

Will I cry?

Some people cry and some don't.  Really it's hard to know who might and who might not.  Strong men have surprised me by crying.  Tough girls have cried even during a spanking - yet small very timid ones have not even squeaked with quite a sever caning!

How will I feel afterwards?

I always take care to support and hug clients after we have finished (perhaps the one break from my professional manner).  If I have been punishing a husband, then I require the wife to hug and forgive her husband.  Some people are very shaky, but most feel quite elated and surprisingly happy.

What will you do and how will you treat me?

Usually I shall arrive and we have a coffee together.  When we move into the room where you are to be spanked, I will sit down and tell you to lie down over my knee.  In this room you will always call me sir.  I shall then talk to you and ask you why you are going to be spanked/punished.  When you have answered me, I shall tell you that I shall begin by spanking you over your clothes.  This is not usually a very painful exercise, but I begin by warming your bottom rhythmically and in sequence side to side.  I then tell you to take down your skirt or trousers, or lift up your dress and continue for the second part of the session, later lifting the sides of your knickers to get more skin contact prior to pulling them down to your knees (or telling you to if it is difficult for me to do so without damaging them).  In between sessions of smacks I will always rub your bottom to reduce the sting and bruising.  I may well resort to other implements such as a tawse, hairbrush, paddle or wooden spoon from time to time.

If you are to be caned, once I feel that your bottom is sufficiently prepared you will be told to bend over whichever object is most appropriate given the furnishings of the room.  Sometimes I may make you lie down on your bed with pillows under your tummy in order to push your bottom in the air so that it presents as a good target.  I usually reserve this position for those that wish to be restrained.

I do not wish here to give a detailed blow by blow description simply because every session is a little different from the next one - sometimes a lot different.

Will you do anything unexpected?

I shall usually have discussed the scenario, but most clients find a first session to be a little different to how they imagined - often far less scary, but far more controlled.  Where a proper punishment has been requested I try to leave part of the management of the session unclear.  If you are worried by this I am happy to agree a full scenario.

What if I change my mind?

You are the client and can always change your mind.  If you do I respect your decision.  Rarely, a client will have asked for a punishment where they are restrained and have also asked not to be allowed to change their mind.  Whilst I have had nervous clients, I have not yet had a serious request to cease a session; I believe this is because I can judge what a client can take and do not take people beyond their limits.

Will you tie me down?

Only if you request this after serious discussion with me.

Will you take advantage of me and ‘feel' me or touch me where you shouldn't?

Whilst I am a man with normal urges, I am also a professional disciplinarian.  I shall rub your bottom and thighs - wherever you have been struck.  This is to reduce the stinging and to prevent bruising.  I shall never take advantage of you and am always be careful to avoid touching all parts that are off limits (for me the limits are legitimate places to hold and restrain you, and the areas being addressed for punishment - usually the bottom, but on request the bottom and thighs.  I am very happy to discuss this in e-mails as this is often a concern.

I have something particular in mind, are you prepared to tailor our session to match this?

Of course.  I have many such requests.  About half the time clients have a particular scenario in mind and I am happy to fit in with this as long as I am not getting into anything too heavy (I don't do blood sports!).

I have some particular needs but they are not mentioned.  Am I likely to shock you?

Of course not.  Many clients have particular fantasies - more that half want to be spanked/caned completely naked (the other half do not want this!).  I cannot be shocked and can only say no.  Please feel free to ask.

Rates

My time is limited nowadays, but I always try to make an appointment as soon as possible.

My charges are up to £50 for the first session of usually over 1 hour, but up to 2 hours depending on circumstances.  Any subsequent sessions are charged at £30.

I always visit you and strongly prefer this to be in your house and not a hotel.

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